Well here we are in a whole new year. Welcome, 2018! I hope you had a break over Christmas and the New Year and are up back and at ‘em!
Maybe you are already planning how to make 2018 a great year for you. Maybe you are planning to lose weight, stop smoking, tackle your self-confidence issues, or something else entirely.
Whatever you are thinking about, one thing is for sure. It’s that time of the year when your inbox, Facebook, etc, etc will be filled with messages about how you can make 2018 your best year yet; how whatever they are selling will guarantee you success at whatever you want to achieve; and how only they hold the secret to that success. Which is all very well, and may even be true, but can certainly feel annoying, exhausting or completely overwhelming.
So here are two words of sound advice from that incredible author, Douglas Adams:
Don’t feel pressured into making any snap decisions. Don’t rush into anything just to be doing something.
Of course it’s true this is a whole new year, full of exciting and rewarding possibilities. But it’s not a magical date, with a ‘use by’ expiry coming up any time soon. The possibilities to make changes to your life exist today, tomorrow, next week or next month. They are there now and they will still be there whenever YOU are ready. Again, I say:
The New Year is a great time to sit back, reflect on the past and plan for the future. To think about what went well last year and what might need to change this year. But tomorrow is also a great time to do that, and next week, and next month, and whenever YOU are ready to commit to that change, any day over the coming year. The important thing is that you are willing to make changes and to work towards what you want, maybe in partnership with a professional who can help you.
The important thing is to remember that life doesn’t get better by CHANCE, it gets better by CHANGE.
So if you are thinking of making a change this year and you would like some help and advice on how to go about it, please do feel free to get in touch:
Give me a call on 07943 151793
Or email me at email@example.com
Or message me through this website Contact page:
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Check out the rest of this website for more information about how I can help and for testimonials from happy clients.
Just get in touch when YOU are ready, when YOU are committed to making that change happen.
Take care of yourself.
Merry Christmas to you all!
I hope you all have a great Christmas lined up, with friends or family, or on your own if that is your choice.
It's worth remembering though that this time of year can be difficult for some. If Christmas isn’t a good time for you, for whatever reason, why not think about doing something different? You could help out at a Food Bank – such as this one in Hull:
Or with a community project to bring people together at Christmas, like this one:
Or if you just feel the need of a bit of company online over the holiday, why not join in with Sarah Millican’s excellent Twitter group at Christmas, bringing people together for a chat:
(See her page for details https://twitter.com/sarahmillican75/status/929758245132099584)
Maybe you will be with family, but it’s all a bit of a strain, giving too much of yourself, and then who looks after you? Remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup. Take a bit of time to think about the changes you would like to make and how you want to achieve them in the coming year. Then perhaps give me a call and we can work together to make 2018 the year you want it to be.
FREE WINTER CALMER AUDIO RECORDING
If all the Christmas preparations and pressures are proving a bit much, why not try my Winter Calmer audio recording? This short taste of the benefits of hypnotherapy will leave you feeling calmer and better able to cope this season.
If you would like a copy, just use the Contact form on my website and I’ll send it out completely free of charge.
Whatever you do this Christmas, I hope you are happy, safe and warm.
Take care, and be good to yourself.
We all have fears in our lives and these are usually perfectly rational. Fear is an inbuilt response to protect us from danger. However, when it becomes irrational, it is classed as a phobia. An irrational fear is characterised by an extreme reaction to something which actually does not pose a threat. The sufferer usually realises it is irrational and may say things like "I know it's silly, but..." when explaining their behaviour.
Phobias are linked to our subconscious and the very fact that they are irrational means they can be treated effectively. Phobias usually cause the sufferer to go to great lengths to avoid any situation where their phobia might arise and their response can be extreme.
Signs you may have a phobia
The thought of it makes you tremble
You may break out in a sweat and feel nauseous
You will want to literally run away from the cause of your phobia
Your heart races and your face goes red
Causes of phobia
Phobia often goes back to an event in early life and may be the result of a trauma or learned behaviour from a family member.
Don't worry - help is at hand!
Hypnotherapy can be very effective in dealing with phobias, as they exist in the subconscious and this is the part of you that hypnotherapy connects with. Treatment may include finding the root cause of the phobia and helping the sufferer to learn a new, positive response to replace their phobic reaction.
Hypnotherapy can also help you to relax and desensitise to the cause of the phobia.
The picture above is of a client who has recently had her nose pierced. Not a major event to most of us, but for her it was a huge move forward. She had come to see me a few months earlier suffering from an extreme phobia of needles. She could not even be in the same room as a needle, or watch anyone having an injection. After a course of hypnotherapy, she was a changed person and was perfectly comfortable around needles. But the major step forward came when she went to have her nose pierced. She was perfectly calm and relaxed about the whole thing and felt no anxiety at all. You can see more about her on the Testimonials page. For her, this was a major event and a cause for celebration. Her lifelong phobia had been conquered!
Don't let a phobia stand in your way or stop you from doing the things you want. Find out about how hypnotherapy can help, and make that change.
Remember: Life doesn't get better by chance, it gets better by change.
Take care of yourself.
Like it or not, Christmas will be here before we know it. I actually love Christmas. Getting together with friends and family, relaxing, unwinding after a busy year. But it can also bring pressures of its own, including wanting to look your best for a special event or party.
LOOKING YOUR BEST
What would you like for Christmas this year? The year has certainly gone by quickly and maybe you intended to give yourself the gift of getting into shape before now, but time has run away with you? Maybe you have an invitation to a really special Christmas event and want to look your very best in your new dress?
GET HELP NOW
Well, it's not too late! Hypnotherapy is a great way to slim in time for your big event. Using tried and tested methods, you can increase your motivation, resist temptation and feel eager to exercise more.
Check out the Services page on my website for information on my weight loss suite of programmes. There is sure to be one there that will suit you. Or if you are not sure which to go for, just give me a call and we can discuss your specific needs. All programmes are individually adapted to suit you personally.
The most popular weight loss programme I offer is the Virtual Gastric Band, which has been proven to work in clinical trials. This simply takes you into a deep relaxation and lets you visualise, safely and securely, going through the process of a gastric band operation - but of course without any actual operation or discomfort! The process lets you feel as though your stomach is smaller than before and you are full after eating less food. It's as simple as that!
With a support recording to listen to between sessions, and four 1-hour hypnotherapy sessions, backed up by my personal help through text and email, you will be surprised how easy it is to change your eating habits. You could soon be slipping into that little black dress!
Get back your sparkle this party season! Give me a call or message me via the contact page on this site and I can answer any questions you might have.
What have you got to lose?
I find that a lot of people don't really understand much about hypnotherapy and giving talks in the local community is a great way to widen understanding. It's also a good way for me to give something back to my community - and it's fun too!
I had a really great evening last week, when I gave a talk to members of Bridlington Round Table at the lovely Expanse Hotel.
The guys were really welcoming and entered totally into the spirit of the event, asking lots of questions and taking part in a group hypnosis session.
I am very grateful to Martin Helbrow for inviting me and to all the group for giving me such a warm welcome. I think they would all agree that they learnt a lot about hypnotherapy and how it can help with a wide range of issues.
If you are a member of a local group or club and would like a talk about hypnotherapy, drop me a message or give me a call.
Each talk is individually tailored to suit the needs and interests of your group. Maybe you just want a general talk on what hypnotherapy is and how it works, or maybe your group has specific issues, such as health concerns or professional performance and would like to know more about what hypnotherapy can offer you.
Life Hypnotherapy 1-2-1
How has your weekend been? Good, I hope? Maybe you've been out and about enjoying the last of the summer, or maybe you've been busy at home getting ready for the week ahead? Does the thought of the coming week fill you with anticipation and pleasure? Or are you feeling stressed out and anxious about everything you need to do, or people you need to deal with?
Unfortunately, life can't be all sunshine and relaxation. We all have commitments and obligations, some of which might be causing us stress and worry. Every life has its clouds. But if yours are leaking into your free time and spoiling that, worrying about how you'll cope, don't be afraid to reach out for a little help.
Although it might not feel like it at the time, some of those clouds have a meaning and a use that can help us to become better people or understand others more. Managing our own difficulties helps us to see what other people are going through and be kinder, hopefully, as a result.
But if your clouds are really getting too heavy to bear, hynotherapy can help. Have a look at the Services page on my website:
My programmes for stress and anxiety relief can really help you to break old patterns of thoughts and behaviour that are holding you back. Without even realising it, we can repeat outmoded behaviours automatically, but hypnotherapy can help you to replace these with new, positive behaviours and let you move on with your life.
And after the rain comes the sunshine, lighting up our days and warming our hearts. Feeling better, stronger, more able to cope and with strategies and tools to handle whatever life throws at us.
You can get there, you can do this, you are strong. You might just need a helping hand to realise it and that's where I come in. Giving you the tools you need to help yourself and to enjoy the sunshine again without worrying about the next storm.
And without the odd rain cloud, we would never have a rainbow :-).
Take care of yourself.
When I first qualified as a Clinical Hypnotherapist and had some business cards made, I felt like an impostor – what did I know, really, after all? What if someone asked me a difficult question about hypnotherapy and I couldn’t answer? Then when I launched my own practice, again I felt like someone would find out that I really didn’t know what I was talking about. I’ve just recently set up this blog – after putting off doing it for ages because I didn’t think I could do it – and now I think someone will point out that I’m doing it all wrong and I’m a fake.
This is known as Impostor Syndrome and it’s surprisingly common. Even the wonderful, qualified, experienced, knowledgeable and totally amazing hypnotherapy tutor I trained under admitted to feeling like this from time to time, and that’s just crazy! Apparently lots of famous people feel this way too. Actors, writers, TV presenters and more.
The famous writer Maya Angelou suffers from it and said:
“I have written 11 books, but each time I think, 'Uh oh, they're going to find out now. I've run a game on everybody, and they're going to find me out.'"
Other sufferers include Tom Hanks, Tommy Cooper and Neil Gaiman: all incredibly talented and successful people you would think would have tons of self-confidence and self-belief. But apparently being successful really doesn’t stop you feeling that way.
Psychological research done in the early 1980s estimated that two out of five successful people consider themselves frauds and other studies have found that 70 percent of all people feel like impostors at one time or another.
Everyone can suffer from it from time to time. It’s when you’re trying something new, or thinking about trying something, and the voice in your head says “Whoa there, wait a minute! Who are YOU to think you can do that? Who are YOU kidding?” You’re feeling vulnerable, you’re stepping out of your comfort zone and you feel that fear, that doubt overwhelm you. Maybe you’re worried about how others will react to you trying this new thing, maybe you’re afraid they’ll laugh at you. Maybe, you think, you really ARE fooling yourself…?
But you know what? You CAN do this. You ARE good enough. You ARE NOT ALONE.
Ways to Handle It
So what you can you do to combat it, when the feeling strikes? Here are a few ideas that will help:
Recognise it and use it as a way to learn, a way to remind you that we’re all only human and it’s OK to feel this way.
Own up to it with friends and colleagues, and you’ll be surprised how many other people will admit they feel exactly the same! Like my amazing tutor – who would have guessed she felt like that?
Don’t compare yourself unfavourably to other people. Just work at being the best version of you that you can be. Who wants to be a copy of someone else? No-one else can be you, you’re unique!
Write down and keep any positive feedback you get from other people. We are very good at remembering the negatives we tell ourselves but forgetting or dismissing the good comments we get from others. Believe them!
When you try new things, sometimes you will fail. That’s how it works. If you never fail, it’s because you haven’t tried anything. But getting something wrong or being less than perfect is just you learning something, something that you can take away and improve and come back stronger and better. What IS perfect anyway? We are all imperfect and unique and we all have something to offer. Don’t let fear of “failure” stop you trying anyway. You’ll probably surprise yourself.
Recognize that no-one has all the answers. We are all learning and growing and that’s exactly how it should be. You are improving all the time and that’s always worthwhile.
Get out there and be YOU!
I read something the other day which really made an impression on me. It said:
"Things were meant to be used
And people were meant to be loved.
What is wrong today is that things are being loved
And people are being used".
No wonder we so often feel out of sync, unfulfilled and unhappy.
Things will not make you happy.
Yes, the new shoes or the new car or the new phone are great for a short time and we can enjoy them. But they won't fix any underlying problems and soon your mood will revert back to what it was before.
Don't look to things for happiness. Don't look outside yourself for contentment. Take time to work out who you are and what you really want. Only when you really understand and appreciate yourself can you find contentment in your life.
Take time for yourself. Take care of yourself.
Talk again soon.
Modern life can be exhausting. It can leave you feeling like there's no time for YOU. Stress is a very real problem these days and can affect us all. I know, I've been there myself. I know how it feels, I can sympathise with how you feel. But better than that - I can help you fix it!
Feel like there are never enough hours in the day?
Feel like nothing you do is good enough?
Try to please everyone all the time - but there's nothing left for you?
I can help you get back control, regain a balance in your life and feel re-energised.
Have a look around my website at: www.lifehypnotherapy121.co.uk and on my Facebook page at: https://www.facebook.com/lifehypnotherapy121.
Message me, text me, ring me, I'm here to help. We can have a chat about your issues and work out a way forward to help you get back YOU. Don't be shy, I don't bite - honest!
Take care and see you again soon :-).
Hello and welcome to my new HypnoBlog! A place where you will find hints, tips, information and advice about hypnotherapy and how it can help you.
Maybe you have had previous experience of the benefits of hypnotherapy or maybe it is all new to you and you want to find out more. This is the place for you!
I would love this to be a two way process, so please add your comments to the posts - but just remember the usual rules with these things and be polite. Remember - if you wouldn't want your mum to read it, don't write it! :-)
Talk to you soon.
My name is Tina Taylor and I run Life Hypnotherapy 1-2-1, a hypnotherapy practice in Hull.