Do you like yourself? Do you feel you’re not good enough or that no-one likes you?
If so, you could be suffering from low self-esteem. Blaming yourself for things that aren’t actually your fault; feeling guilty for spending time or money on yourself; feeling like you don’t deserve to be happy – these are all symptoms of low self-esteem and can hold you back from living the life that you want and deserve. It’s like there’s a voice inside your head, making you doubt everything you do. If this sounds like you, have a look at these helpful hints to improve your self-esteem.
Figure out what is affecting your self-esteem
It can be different for everyone, but you may feel this way because of:
Whatever the cause, try to remember that you – just like everyone else - have the right to feel good about yourself. It can be difficult to break old habits, but there are steps you can take to improve how you feel.
Don't put yourself down
That voice in your head is telling you not to bother, and belittling anything you do. Learn to challenge those thoughts and beliefs. Talk to yourself the way you would to a family member or friend – with positivity and support.
It’s all too easy to compare yourself with others and think you are lacking somehow. But what you see of other people’s lives is often a distorted reflection of the truth. Remember – the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence! This is particularly true of what you see on social media - everything is edited, photo-shopped and altered to create a perfect image, so don't waste any time wondering why you aren't perfect too!
Don’t put pressure on yourself to be perfect – no-one is, no matter how it might look that way from the outside.
Connect with people who care about you
Make a deliberate effort to spend more time with people who love and care about you and treat you well. This can help you to feel good about yourself and quiet that negative voice in your head. Avoid people who make you feel bad about yourself - you don't need that in your life.
Ask people who care about you what they like about you – they probably see things in you that you don’t realise yourself.
Take care of yourself
If you have low self-esteem, you may feel guilty about spending time or money or effort on yourself. But these things are really important to your well-being, physically and mentally. Encourage yourself to take care of yourself. Give yourself little treats and put aside a little time each week just for you – whether that’s going for a run, having a massage or just watching your favourite film.
You ARE worth it, you ARE important, you DO matter.
Look after yourself.
My name is Tina Taylor and I run Life Hypnotherapy 1-2-1, a hypnotherapy practice in Hull.